Bedmate forever?????

Bedmate forever???

Being liberated is one of the traits we have adopted from the Western world. Nowadays, greater percentage of adolescents and young adults enjoyed the art of sex outside the bond of marriage.

• It seems that premarital sex is “common” and virginity is “not a big deal” anymore. Many factors have contributed why this age group has indulged in such affair. An example is peer pressure. “All my friends are doing and have tried it… why should not I?”. Other factors include curiosity, being tested by a partner, frustrations, just for fun, and an individual needs an outlet of their “heat”. Another reason is the “need of love and belongingness”.

• On these age groups (adolescents and young adults) their primary aim is to be loved and be belonged; to have an intimate partner. Others failed to feel love from their family, that’s why they tend to search it outside their family. And the common reason is that people express their love to each other through sex.

• Premarital sex is commonly practiced by persons claimed to be in love… but how about those who engage in sex without having “love to each other”? Do these people want to have bedmates forever without the expression of love? Several individuals prefer to engage in this kind of relationship… “No strings attached”. Just have sex and then nothing… Maybe these people are afraid of responsibilities, serious relationships, and are not ready to “be settled”. Maybe guys do survive to have sex and then forget the woman easily. But I believe that women are more emotional than men and that they won’t easily give up to the person they don’t like.

• But what are the consequences of this type of relationship??? Are these people satisfied? Does it really true that these persons didn’t have any intimate emotions to their bedmates? What if a party falls in love with his/ her partner? What if the woman had learn to love his bedmate? Does she have the right to demand? Does she have the right to be jealous? What does a person gets from this kind of relationship? NOTHING! ONE DOESN’T HAVE THE RIGHT TO DEMAND from his/ her bedmate. One has no right to demand for time, respect, devotion, trust, and love for you are just his/ her bedmate ONLY and nothing more than that. One doesn’t even gain a friend, for a friend knows how to respect. What if your partner doesn’t like you anymore? Will they just leave you and find a fresher one. One can’t have true satisfaction from this relationship because all one gets is satisfaction of the flesh which is temporary only. They claim to reach paradise, but they had never known that they had reach hell 5 more times every time they reach paradise. Satisfaction of the flesh can’t give genuine happiness; it won’t give you an inner peace...

• To those people who are engaging on this kind of affair, do you think your relationship is helping you? Aren’t you hurting? Aren’t you hurting someone else? Did your needs of “love and belongingness” fulfilled? ARE YOU HAPPY?